Kind of at a loss
Firstly, I apologize for this being so long... I just need to get it out and get some feedback.
I've been with my current partner for near on 3 years now. We made it clear early on that we both had some mental health issues.
I suffer from self esteem issues from an abusive string of relationships and depression. He suffers from alcohol abuse issues, depression and has had made a few attempts on his life over the years.
I ended up sending him to the emergency room in 2017 for a suicide attempt, which he claims was not one. Stopped him again in 2018.
He complains about having to do everything in the house, but then also complains when I try to take on more of the responsibilities. Like, he'll bitch that he had to do his own laundry, but also bitch if I take care of all that because he "Wants a partner, not a servant."
He's been having some issues between his ex and his first child, which has resulted in him not seeing the child on his court appointed weekends. The mom says the child doesn't want to come over, the child says mom won't allow them.
This has obviously added to his already low mood.
I'm currently 29 weeks pregnant. He's happy to have another go at the dad thing most days. Other days he's convinced it's just another kid he'll need to pay child support on and who'll hate him.
The past few months, his mood has gotten way worse. He mentions just giving up, or killing himself almost every other day. He's extremely angry. Always yelling at one thing/person or another. He's gotten physical with me a little while he's drinking.
Just the other night, he told me I needed to get the F out of his face and that he didn't want me around, and then pushed me while I was trying to honour the request and catch a bus.
When I came back the next day, he told me I was lucky that he was still there, because he had planned to kill himself and his friend talked him out of it.
I'm at a loss of what to do. Obviously, I don't want him to kill himself. And try as I might to help take all the extra off his plate so he can maybe relax, it just seems to upset him more. I can't imagine the stress this is causing me is too great for the baby.
Any advice, or feedback? I don't want a happy home at this point... I just want a home where I don't feel like I have to walk on eggshells and constantly fear coming home to a corpse.
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