Postpartum depression?

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I had my little one just 10 days ago. He was very much planned and I am from the bottom of my heart so happy to have been so blessed! But the last few days all I have been doing is crying! Any time I'm alone all I do is literally ball my eyes out. I think to myself what have we gotten ourselves into? That I miss my life before baby and I find myself trying desperately to hold onto how things were before the baby. I miss my husband. When I'm awake he is asleep and vice versa. I am lonely and I just miss my freedom. Even as I type all this I shock myself because I never thought I would feel this way. On the other end I am so happy to have become a mom and excited about this new chapter in life. What is happening to me? I also have a lot of anxiety of weather I was cut out for motherhood and I am so scared to mess up. Has anyone else felt this way? What can I do to feel better? I spoke to my SO he is super supportive and tells me it's my hormones and that it will get better. Does anyone who has been through this have any advice for me? Thanks in advance

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I feel like I could have written this myself about 2 months ago! It was so hard in the beginning, and the hormones don't help, but I promise it does get better! Soon, baby will start sleeping more, you'll start getting more interaction in the form of smiles and coos, and it won't feel as difficult as it used to. The big thing that helped me is reaching out to people and asking for help. Whether it's having people over who can hold baby while you take a shower or just have people to talk to that are adults, reaching out was such a big help for me. I hope you have people you can reach out to!

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I felt the same way! It's so hard in the beginning. I cried everyday for pretty much 3 weeks straight. It gets better and easier!

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Yes, this is totally normal! I really wished people talked more about it. I was overcome by such guilt for the first few weeks of my daughter's life because I didn't think I could be the mother she deserved. Now she's 4 months and guess what? I'm confident in myself and I love every moment with my little girl! Hang in there and congrats!

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I felt this way too at about the same time as you. It gets better. By about 4-5 weeks postpartum your hormones will level out and you will be just fine. If you're still majorly struggling by then I would give your OB a call, but until then it's usually just a hormonal thing. You can do this momma! It's all still new right now but you'll get into a routine. :)

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I think for 10 days pp, how you're feeling is normal. It's a mixture between the hormones and all the changes. It makes for a rough first few weeks. If you're still feeling like this in a couple weeks I would call your OB. But, every mom has been you're at right now. It's normal. Motherhood is an adjustment and the hormones don't help at all.

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I feel like I wrote this. I'm 6 days pp and all I do is cry. I miss my husband and he's right here. He is such a wonderful father so far. I am scared that nothing will ever be the same. I have wanted and planned this for years. It took forever to get pregnant, but now I'm worried that I'm not cut out for this. I feel awful and guilty. 😢

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I was totally feeling like that the first 2 weeks pp. It was extremely hard and I was shocked at how desperate I was feeling, as if the great part of my life was over. 
I'm now 3 weeks pp, it got better, but I still struggle with anxiety when evening/night comes. I still can't sleep outside my house without my husband. Fortunately, he is super understanding, and helps me a lot.

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I am so glad you wrote this because i am feeling the same way. My precious daughter is two and a half weeks.  I am having a really tough time. Between the lack of sleep and hormones and major life change its been so hard. I hear it gets better.

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How far pp are you?  I had these EXACT same thoughts and feelings my first 2-3 weeks pp even though my DH and I purposely waited to have kids until our early 30's so we could enjoy our freedom first after getting married and then around a month pp it was like a switch flipped (or maybe the hormones finally leveled out) and I stopped feeling blue and became so attached to my little guy and felt so much happier.  Now at 7 weeks pp I rarely feel blue at all and am so proud of how much more confident I am as a mom in so little time and now think of us as a family rather than dwell on missing my freedom and old life.  Hang in there and keep leaning on your hubby for support!  I also found it reassuring to talk to other new mom friends during my blue times.

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I understand how you feel! I'm 3 weeks pp
 I love being a mom so much and love my daughter. Everything seems so easy right now and I feel super lucky. She's a great baby, breastfeeding with 0 problems so far. So I feel like I shouldn't complain. 
But I get random moments of feeling super overwhelmed and sad because I miss my old life. My bestfriend doesn't seem to care when I talk about motherhood since she's younger and not a mom. She seems to not care about anything I say actually. And it hurts. I feel like my boyfriends life hasn't had to change and he has more freedom. I never leave my house. I can't do anything anymore. I'm making no money on my maternity leave so I can't afford anything I need and my boyfriend isn't making a lot. He spends most of his money after he pays the bills. I'm even going back to work a week early because I can't do it anymore :(
I get jealous sometimes when I see people around my age doing fun things and all I think is "they're so lucky they can do that. They don't have to be stuck home with a baby 24/7" 
I miss having freedom and having friends. 
And I feel so guilty.

You might not be depressed, but just overwhelmed at times. It happens to most new moms and it's okay to cry. I cried so much the first week and for the dumbest things! It's a mix of hormones and things being so different. 
We're only human. I don't think any mom can feel as if they're "super"human and happy every moment of everyday no matter how much they want to. It's just not possible! 
But we'll adjust. It does get better. 
I love my daughter and even when I feel sad or overwhelmed she makes my heart melt. 
As long as you love your child and do what's best for them, you're a great parent. Don't worry ❤️

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