I wasn't there to witness it she told me and he lied about it I was at work. We've talked about it and we decide that when either of us get mad send her to time out or her room make her sit there while we calm down then talk to her about what she did wrong then spank cause them they'll understand it's not out of anger but it is a punishment. Cause it was bad. She's three. I did flip when I got home I was abused as a child so it's the last thing I want fort kids so when this happened because I always toldyself