Not having sex since 2 months

So me and my husband not having sex or any kissing hugging thing since last 2 months. We even hardly talk to each other. we have 1 year old son. The thing between us got into such situation is because of him not doing any kind of job and always sleeping or playing games on phone and eating gutka(pan). I hate the smell of gutka even I told him several times that this thing is not good for your help also I dont like the smell plus that thing is making his teeth red and I hate it then also he is not stopping and continuously eating it every day. I started hating him for eating that dirty thing and also not doing any job. What to do please give me suggestions please.