I hate sex

So I wanted to have sexy times with my SO. I started playing with him and than I went down on him he started playing with me BARELY. And he asked me if I wanted him to cum. I said no. (Which he knows that means I want to actually have sex) so two minutes later he does 🙄 and than says I’m going to get you really good tomorrow babe. It just makes me so upset I love him to pieces but our sex is not that great. Idk what to do about it. I tried talking to him about what I like and he’s done it maybe a handful of times since we’ve gotten together. I bought tie downs cock rings flavored lubes card games. He doesn’t like any of it.. I’m just at a loss