Husbands always gone vent 😣

I’m SAHM. I have zero friends or social life. My son is my world but lately I’ve been getting stressed. My husband works Monday - Friday, sometimes even saturdays. I’m grateful he works don’t get me wrong. The last few months he’s been gone almost every weekend( hanging with friends or his brothers band) He hates when I get upset and tells me I’m trying to control him but it’d be nice if he wanted to spend time with us or me. I’ve been feeling kinda lonely and our marriage is dwindling. I plan date nights but he always ends up drinking too much or going off with friends instead of being with me. When I express how I feel he thinks I’m being unfair. Also when he has plans I won’t hear from him for hours sometimes days! He doesn’t even bother, yet when I do something which is very rare i tell him exactly where I am and what I’m doing/ when I’ll be home. I just don’t understand. Help.