Husband spying on me??

I don’t even know where to begin with this. I guess it’ll just be all over the place. Bare with me....

My husband calls me outside last night and starts talking about text messages I’ve sent. Asked me what my plan was.. Not even a month ago, my husband wanted a divorce and called the court house and an attorney he knows asking all these questions about how much and what he needed to do and everything. So I messaged this man I know that works at a car dealership asking about used vehicle pricing because all I have is my husbands sports car I drive two kids around in. He starts quoting my messages, and I don’t know how he’s reading them! He tried to tell me he got them from detailed billing, but I know it’s a lie. Our company doesnt give out detailed messages without a court order. Then I think, he’s a cop. Could he really have done that? I tell him i know he didn’t get them that was and he’s like no, i didn’t. I ask him why he lied about it and he doesn’t understand my point. 🤦🏻‍♀️ My biological dad, step mom, and I have had a few “problems” if you will, but nothing major. Right before my husband and I got together, I was on a certain antidepressant that made me AWFUL. I had suicidal ideations, talked bad about the people who loved me, felt like no one was there for me. I got my meds changed and started getting back to normal, but too late. My husband HATES them. So I literally cut my family off for him. Quit talking to them. I started talking back about 3 months ago because i was tired of it. He told me the month ago that he wanted me to start doing what makes me happy, and if I wanted to go visit on his weekends he was working and talk to them, “that was fine”. NOW HES UPSET BECAUSE IVE TALKED TO THEM! Thinks they want to ruin our relationship. It doesn’t matter how many times I tell him all they want is for me to be happy whatever it takes, he won’t listen. He told me this “isn’t *my name’s* world and you don’t get to do what you want. If you wanna do something, you talk to me about it and I will tell me if you can or can’t. You married me. I deserve a little more courtesy than what I’m getting.” He called me a worthless piece of shit, a dumb bitch, a stupid bitch, fuck me, a sorry person, you name it. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like we go forward, then it just falls apart again. I’m tired of fighting. I’m tired of him trying to break me down. I’m tired of him going behind my back with this “spy” crap. He wants me to say “I agree” to a divorce, but he turns around and says he will never get divorced and won’t sign any papers. So how can I “agree” to something he does t even offer? Doesn’t make much sense to me...

anyways.. I’m just lost. I don’t know what to do you guys. Any advice is much appreciated.