Should I inform DH that we are TTC?

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My husband and I have been married for 2 years and have a 6 month old son that we both love. I would love to have another one and kind of get our 2 kids done with while we are young and can handle sleepless nights and our jobs but my husband refuses because he says we need to wsit a few years so it is not too much at one time. I have started TTC and he knows that we have not been on any kind of BC since my pregnancy. Should I come clean and tell him what I am doing or let it be. I mean its not like he does not know that no BC and sex everyday usually end in a pregnancy.

Accepted Answer

What you're doing is called reproductive coercion and is a form of abuse, it may even be illegal in some places. Remove your head from your ass and own up and face the consequences. Imagine the roles reversed and your husband tampering with your birth control to get you pregnant against your wishes.

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Yes, that's a decision partners need to make together. Besides, doctors say to wait 12-18 months to conceive again so that your body has healed not only for your sake but so it can properly provide for the next baby.

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Are you kidding? What is wrong with people and what kind of a person are you ...why would you not tell him!?

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Seriously? Of course you should talk to him about it. Get on the same page with your husband before you make a decision that could jeopardize you're entire marriage. Don't assume he wants what you want when you want it.

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I think it's messed up to being trying to conceive when you know your partner doesn't want another kid yet. If you're not pregnant right now, I suggest you use protection when you have sex *until* you two sit down and come to an agreement that you want another child. Think of it this way- what if you didn't want a kid and he was poking holes in the condoms because he wants one? That's a recipe for disaster.  I hope you two can see eye to eye and make a plan for your future

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Successful relationships are founded on trust and compromise. Keeping something like this from him is wrong.

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Never hide things from you husbands, fiancé, or boyfriends....these relationships are based on trust and honesty....would you like it if the roles were reversed?

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You should definitely tell him if that's what you are doing and also you shouldn't be trying. You only have a 6 month old, doctors say it's unhealthy to have pregnancies that close together.

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That's reproductive coercion, and that's screwed up.  Big time.  Also, "we" are TTC?  YOU are TTC.

Put the shoe on the other foot.  Pretend you didn't want to be pregnant and he wanted a kid, so he poked holes in the condoms or tampered with your birth control. How violated would you feel?

If I found out my partner did that to me, I would leave.  It's an absolute dealbreaker.

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What is wrong with you girl? Come on meow. Switch the script? Are you happy about the thought of your husband trying to get you pregnant against your will? Not cool, bro, not cool.

Should I inform DH that we are TTC?

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