(I am currently 20+3 weeks pregnant, with my second who is diagnosed with a fatal skeletal dysplasia and not expected to live)

So after my ultrasound on Friday that confirmed fatal skeletal dysplasia I met with my OB to discuss the plan moving forward.

He started off the convo about saying sorry and how he recommends termination, and the different options of termination and then asked me what I wanted to do. I told him I plan on letting things go naturally, carry as long as possible. He then asked me why I choose to do that, what is my reasoning. I told him if my baby is going to pass, I will let that happen naturally. He said he would support me either way, but said he doesn’t see the benefit about continuing the pregnancy besides the emotional aspect. He said the baby is still small so he can do surgery now, but as the baby gets bigger it will be a regular labor. He then asked if I wanted to listen to the heartbeat at each appointment going forward. ???? Like of course I still want to listen to the heartbeat. I want this pregnancy treated as any other.

I’m at a loss. I saw him all throughout my first pregnancy and absolutely loved him, but now I don’t know what to do. I already have an appointment with him in 3 weeks. Even though he says he supports my decision, it sure doesn’t feel like it.

My MFM doctor who does the ultrasounds completely supports me and says this will be a positive experience.

Has anyone else been in this position with their OB? Did you change doctors?