What do I do?

Question

Husband keeps accusing me of cheating but then says shit like "women give me more attention then you do" (i don't like having sex 3 times a day anymore like I used to)!
And then he tells me he wants me to leave and says he wants to take the kids away..
I've been struggling to find a job, and I just found out I'm pregnant.. I don't wanna leave because I don't wanna loose my babies.. And Idk if I wanna stay in this relationship! 😢😢😢😢 
I just don't know what to do! I'm so lost and hurt and broken!
I'll admit I have gotten a little lazy about working, but I have been looking for jobs like every day and no luck.. So I just don't know what to do.. I just feel like giving up! I wanna run away and never look back!

Accepted Answer

The accuser is often the one doing the cheating.

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Get your finances in order asap. Get yourself an account in solely your name. Check all the bills and see what current activity is happening in the joint account. Get those receipts ready to go and start narrowing down what family you can trust to support you.

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My 2 cents:  
1.  He's feeling insecure bc you might be inattentive to his needs so he feels the need to accuse you of cheating and of how other women give him more attention. It sounds like a cry for help to me.  Usually when men boast like that it just means they are insecure. Still he's a dick for saying stuff like that. 
2.  For a husband to threaten to take the kids away from their mom is unacceptable.  Just to let you know, most states favor kids living with mom so don't worry about it. If you want to feel more secure then start getting your financial condition more stable, get yourself ready to leave and gather enough evidence on him being an unfit dad (like how he would belittle you in front of the kids) to use it against him if needed. Don't live in fear. Educate yourself to protect yourself.

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Find family to stay with. I was trapped just like you are for four years. I was miserable. If family won't help out, take it step by step. First get a job. Even if it's a walmart working nights so your husband can watch the kids while you work. Then get an attorney while he is at work and file for a divorce once you have the money for it. You'll have to call around and ask but some attorneys will work out a payment plan with you so you don't have to pay a crazy amount upfront.

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I wouldn't listen to that BS about taking your kids away.  My husband told me something similar but totally backed down when I was like 'well they're your kids so fine, you keep them and deal with them'.  He shut the hell up after that. He KNOW he don't want to deal with that many kids on his own, he's just talking and trying to upset you.

It sucks feeling trapped.  The only way out is for you to be able to financially support yourself and your kids.  Try not to stress and just keep looking for a job.  Eventually you'll get there.

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