How do you keep your spirits up?

Hubby and I are new at actively TTC. AF just arrived today after seeing a vvvfl earlier in the week. We both really got our hopes up and now I’m super upset. I know it doesn’t always happen right away, and can take months or years, but how does everyone keep their spirits up?

CD1 just rolled around again and I want to be all excited and optimistic about this month, I’m just stuck.

Everyone keeps asking when we are having kids and why aren’t we trying, and our friends are pregnant so we should be too, and I’m letting them get to me. I know it’ll happen in time, I just can’t seem to be optimistic today.

Just looking for some advice on how to keep optimistic while trying