My husband is the breadwinner, I am a stay at home mom with our 3 young children. With a mix of negative childcare experiences and expenses we both agreed that this would be best, with my husband being the one who suggested it since he alone makes enough money for our family to be very comfortable (he is a lawyer).

With that being said, since he makes all of the money I am always cautious about how I spend it, I ask permission first before making large purchases, I don’t make unnecessary purchases and I always consult him on everything. However, today my parents came into town and I took them and my kids to dinner for my mom’s birthday. My husband was eating out with friends and it was a spur of the moment thing. I texted him first asking if it was okay but didn’t hear back, so I checked our finances and realized we had more than enough money to cover it.

The bill for all 6 of us came to $48. We didn’t go to an expensive restaurant. Immediately after paying for the dinner I get a call from my husband saying that a notification just went to his phone that $38 was taken out of our checking. I asked him if he was looking at his texts and he said no. I told him that I took my parents out for dinner and he freaked out. He called me disrespectful and said that if I don’t consult him before making purchases that I just need to go ahead and get a job and stop sitting around on my lazy ass.

I ended up crying from the things that he said and hung up. When I got home he was already there and he would not say a word to me or our children. I am OK with him not speaking to me… But our kids?! Plus he bought dinner for all of his friends at Olive Garden that night and it came to over $100. Am I right to be upset?