DH took new job..worried

Long story short, after discussing over the weekend and 2 more evenings, DH decided to decline a new job offer. High profile job with not a great company culture reputation trying to poach him from a job that’s gives him great (at least flexible) work/life balance. We decided it’s not the best time to start an unknown situation even if it’s more money, which we are very comfortable with. We’ve been through this before with another job where he worked 80 hours a week and was never home, we’re afraid it could turn into that kind of position because it’s a startup. With baby due in 6.5 weeks, just really not great timing.

So they called him and assured him they will allow him to follow his own schedule as long as his work gets done and they’re “working on” improving their culture. Whatever they said made him accept the offer after he already told them no, I learned this via text this afternoon. I’m very shocked and confused and it’s probably my hormones driving how I feel right now but I’m so worried this new position is wrong for our growing family. I told him I’d support him no matter what and I meant it but now I’m worried that it’s going to take over his life and he’s going to miss our little girl growing up. I’m also worried I’m going to have to pick up the slack at home, all while working full time myself. I feel like I can’t say this to him without making him feel guilty and that’s not fair to him when he worked so hard to earn this position and he more than deserves it. I don’t know what I expect from this post but I just needed to get it out. Please be kind, I know some of my worries sound selfish. I’m hoping for the best but preparing for the worst at this point. I really hope this works out. 🙏🏻