Help.. I told him no- am I the one in the wrong?

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Not quite sure what to do.. I gave birth via c section to my baby girl 3 weeks ago. I’m not feeling sexy, & sex is really the last thing on my mind right now. I don’t even want to hardly be touched by my SO. Yesterday though, we had an hour to ourselves, and I wanted to relax, & he wanted to have sex. I told him no multiple times , he still did it. Am I just being dramatic or should I pay more attention to his needs too? I know I’ve been 100% focused on the baby since she’s gotten here, and could be hard for him. Just need some advice.

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You said no and he still did? He raped you hun. And yes it was way to soon, you just had serious abdominal surgery. You need to leave him on the curb with the rest of the trash. And I'd personally call the police because, he raped you! Also call your doctor, she'll probably want to check you out

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Your not even supposed to have sex until you’re checked by the doctor at the 6 week checkup. If you kept saying no & he had sex with you anyway, he raped you.

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1. You are EXTREMELY fertile right now so if no protection was used you'll most likely end up pregnant. 
2. You are only 3 weeks PP way too soon especially since recommended wait period is 6 weeks PP.
3. He has a hand he could've taken care of himself.
4. Hes a dick who needs his ass kicked.
5. You said NO and he disrespected that it's time you teach him a lesson.

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That is rape despite the 'but were married'cleche if you told him no and he forced it.
Even if not that scenario pressuring you to have sex that early is not only selfish its DANGEROUS. There are numerous reasons they tell you not to have sex ESPECIALLY for a C-section.
My husband had to wait almost 5months for me to be cleared for sex. It sucked but he waited because he understood the risks and the pain it caused. 
(Plus there were other things I could do after a few weeks *wink*)

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No he should have respected you saying no. Besides the fact that you said you didn't want to you also have a a huge open wound in your uterus right now from the placenta that could easily get infected which is why it's reccomended to wait 6 weeks.

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He straight up raped you. I wouldn’t stay with someone who did not respect me. Id leave. And file a police report. He’s just going to think it’s ok and keep doing it. There needs to be consequences. I’m pissed off for you right now.

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No he should have listened to you. You aren't even supposed to have sex until 6 weeks PP. He really could have hurted you

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You are no where near wrong he’s in the wrong you had C-section and you have a 3 week old baby you’ve been taking care of your tired you need your rest if you don’t want to have sex you shouldn’t be forced to it’s disrespectful

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You are NOT the one in the wrong. What you just described is marital rape.

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Its he dose that now. What will he do a yr or 2 from now???

Help.. I told him no- am I the one in the wrong?

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