OKAY. RELATIONSHIP ADVICE NEEDED.

Tamia

Any one ever have sketchy things happen in your relationship that look bad but aren’t what they seem? Or have a partner that doesn’t trust?

Just me?

Okay so I’ll take it back so in October my friend was in labour I stuck with her all through the labour and in the birthing room. So as she is about to pop her baby out she wants timmies so me and her man go to timmies in the cafeteria to get her an ice cap. On our way HER MAN had the nerve to say to me “I haven’t been able to keep my eyes off you tonight you looking good” WHILE MY BEST FRIEND OS GIVONG BIRTH! So I make a huge scene in the hallway like you really gonna hit on me? (He cheated on her last April & that girl had a baby in January🤭).. w.e that not my business

We go back upstairs and he’s all on her like you got this I love you. And she needed a c-section. I neglected to tell her what happened because having her baby should’ve been a happy day, not more stressful.

Okay fast forward.

I was fuming and didn’t want to tell my man what happened due to he wouldn’t let me see my bestie anymore cause he already wasn’t a fan. Then we got in a fight I told him cause he constantly accused me of lying 🤥. He messages her what happened! When I was waiting to do it in person. (This girl and me are no longer friends because she stayed with her man and mine said she doesn’t want me around him and she didn’t wanna handle it.. don’t blame her)

Since then I apparently lie about everything. We broke up for 3 days in January. I need up seeing my ex at a bar (I was sad and needed a drink.)

We talked and laughed and I went to my ex’s place. He was trying to do something something. I was not so I left.

When I came back home to my man he constantly asked what you do in when you left (I went back to stay with my dad in my home town 2 hours away from where I am)

About a month ago, we got into a huge fight & another one of my friends ex was storing his pot. 🙄

So what does my man do? HE LIES and says why your friends ex tell me you sleep with someone when you left me? WHAT. I told my friend I saw my ex never did I say I had sex with this man.

So I came clean. I said I saw my ex at the bar we laughed and joked etc. Went to his place left. No kissing now sex nada. He don’t believe me.

My man has never been trusting since maybe 3 months in. I quit my job for him, I moved 2 hours away from home for him, my son is in the custody of his Nana and I am suppose to have him every other weekend & haven’t seen him since March break! It’s always “who you texting, look at me funny when I take a selfie for insta “who you sending that to?” I have insomnia, I don’t get to bed until LATE like 4-5am late. “Who keeping you up at night and occupied”. I miss my son, I’m depressed. I understand these things eat at people, but he’ll just accuse me of things all the time! And I do a lot to show him to trust me. Like I know no one here and don’t have a job I’m alone all the time... yet still he doesn’t trust. He doesn’t prioritize what I need either or want, like when I’m suppose to see my son! And I don’t drive :( I’m alone

but what do I do?! He won’t communicate with me, he’ll fb message me to talk. We talked face to face today about this issue but it never changes.. then it’s my fault for not comforting him after he yells and manipulates things?..