When does it get easy?

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I have a 3 week old and I am loosing my patience with the night feeds and the crying. 
I wanted to EBF, I couldn't. It broke me. I do BF him except once a day give him formula and somedays I don't at all. Depends on how hungry he is.
I have had anxiety issues in the past, sleep deprivation makes them worse. 
On top of it all mom guilt is killing me. For giving him formula for being impatient with him. I feel so bad all the time. it's like I just love him when he is calm. Which is obviously not true. I have help, my MIL, it's too much help sometimes, if you know what I mean.
I was always confident I'll be a good mum, but my confidence is now shaken. I need to stop complaining. 
 Please tell me it gets easier. And how to manage it at this moment.

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It gets easier after the 4-6 week growth spurt.  Once you’re through that I promise you will start to see there is a light at the end of the tunnel.  As for mom guilt, well all I can say is screw that.  Your baby is fed and you are a good mom, if you weren’t you wouldn’t care or be asking strangers for help :) You got this!

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It dose get easier, when though I can't really say but I definitely dose. 
My daughters 6.5 months now and sometimes we still have hard days but there few and far between.
Something I found that use to help me when I was having a particularly bad day, especially if I had a rough night was to take my daughter out. Didn't have to be anywhere special either just a walk round town or 30 min drive about.
It was great to get some fresh air and relax a bit before heading home back to the SSDD routine I had going on.

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3 months. That's the big difference

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Girl you can do this. Mom guilt sucks, but do whatever you need to do to get that guilt voice out of your head. Your instincts will help you the most. You will be able to figure out your baby soon. I just had my second baby, and I do remember what it was like after having my first. I felt unconfident and unsure all the time. You can do this. You and your baby will get into a routine. The first month is always the hardest, especially those last two weeks leading up to them being one month old. You can do this! One of the nurses told me when I was feeling anxious to speak some truths. For example, I would say my baby is fed, he is healthy, he has a clean diaper, at least the _____ room is clean, etc. It might be weird the first few times, but it did help when I said it out loud because we forget the things we do for them and we focus on what we cant do or still need to do. Saying some of those things out loud may help you during those anxious times.

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It doesn't. Well, it does, around 3/4 months. But then it gets hard again. Then easy again, then hard. It's the motherhood cycle. 
Stop feeling guilty. Formula is fine. I fed my children both and they turned out to be intelligent, active and healthy.
Your baby might not sleep through the night until he's two but you'll adjust. Everything comes with time.
Please be aware of yourself and if these feelings get worse, talk to your doctor. You're a good mom, and I promise you'll get through this.

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Umm never? Lol it gets sort easier at like 6 weeks but every age comes with its own challenges

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I am with you! 
Your ability to acknowledge the struggle, and your true feelings shows how in-tune you are with what is going on. I have a 3 week old too. Everything you wrote resonates with me. WE GOT THIS. You are not alone. I’ll be thinking of you when I am peeling my eyes open tonight feeding my baby his FORMULA BOTTLE (made with love of course!) 😉

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It does get easier, the first two weeks for me was so hard that I would cry, but my SO supported me and pushed me because he knew how much I wanted to EBF, but you need to do whatever makes YOU AND BABY happy. If you decide not to breastfeed, that doesn’t make you a bad mom.

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It gets easier. 
I remember from my first daughter.
My second daughter is 5 weeks and we had a hard day yesterday. 
Don't feel guilty. bF or formula - the important thing is to make sure your baby is not hungry. I do both BF and formula as I don't have enough milk. Tried pumping and all... Didn't work. So whatever I have I give it to her. Rest is formula. 
Go out every day. For 15-20 min. It will help you a lot. 
I take the dog out twice a day. Don't let anyone else take him out as it's my stress relief. 
Sleep whenever you can
Try and stay calm. I know it's frustrating at times. Very frustrating, but babies I think sense our moods and respond to them.
But mostly try and sleep when your baby sleeps.

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I would say around 6 weeks and then 12 weeks it gets better. It is so hard in the beginning, especially with your first, to find a rhythm and schedule that works for you and baby. The constant waking up at night and I’m sure the breastfeeding is so hard. I wasn’t able to breastfeed so had to use formula and I have no mom guilt for it. If formula helps you and baby feel and sleep better, then use it! You will never regret doing what you need to do for you sanity. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You are in the thick of it and time only goes forward. You won’t have to go through this again(unless you have another baby but then you will have experience). You got this mama!

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