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I’d confront her racist ass
What do you ladies think ?
My brothers mother in law did something i think is so ignorant like who actully takes the time to do that like why did the color bother you so much. 🤷🏻
She came a took a doll "dark complexion" I bought my niece and exchanged it for a "white" one . first of all you dont go and change something someone else bought her unless its broken or clothes that doesn't fit . so i was upset cause it was such a cute doll it was very expensive cause it crys tears and pops and feels like a real baby . I see her with the doll and ask my brother she got to of them he said no her grandma changed the one you bought to that one .... Shes basically teaching my neice how to discriminate against color 🤦🏻🤦🏻🤦🏻
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I’d be curious if the grandma exchanged it before giving it to the niece or after. If she did it right away, straight racist. No question. If the child wanted a different doll, I’d probably talk to her and ask why. If she’d already picked up some negative ideas about skin color I’d make a point to have an conversation with her about how all skin colors are beautiful. It may have been a battle grandma just wasn’t prepared to deal with.
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It was a gift and she opened it and said "cool new dolly amd its not same" she's 2 and all her dolls are like " her " so she seem happy with something different after all gifts where put away and when everything happen i asked my brother when did she take it back he said the very next day... Like of she was happy why do that 🤷🏻
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No. I never said it was wrong. Simply that I’d talk to the child, find out her reasoning, and work on correcting any negative thoughts about skin tone she may have picked up.
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But is it wrong if the child wants a doll that looks like herself?
Is the grandmother responsible for the child's care? If so, she has the right to exchange or return gifts that she doesn't approve of, even if her reasoning is mean and racist. If she's not responsible for the kid then she's definitely overstepped her boundaries, but it's not your place to reign her in. The toy was given as a gift, and getting upset will only hurt the child.However, two can play at this game. Next time you pick out a gift for the niece, make sure to give it to her directly. Offer to help her open up the packaging so she can play with it right away. Purchase gifts encouraging diversity from locally owned shops or handmade items from something like Etsy, where you can't just return the item easily. Keep on fighting bigotry and racism, and refuse to ever stoop down to their level.
Idk I’m trying to rationalize the situation because I’m on the fence. Would you call me racist if I replaced a doll that matched my kid skin tone? Probably not because we know that representation matters. I don’t also don’t think this is a situation where your niece is going to equate bad with black but then again idk how old she is. Idk. 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️ I’m really conflicted
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Well that’s a shitty thing to do. So no I wouldn’t change the doll and since your niece was happy I can see why it would be racist. I still don’t think this is a “lesson” your niece will register, UNLESS Gramma flat out said “you can’t have this darker doll”.
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Yea i understand but all her dolls are her skin tone and if your child was happy with and happy it was different would you change it ? Cause my neice saw it and was very happy and voiced it and thats what ticked mea off. If a child is happy with a toy why change it because of its color let her be . Now if my neice didnt like it ok fine change it but she did it out of her preference .
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Agreed, seems people jump to that easily. She very well could be, but its not clear yet
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