So... my boy is bipolar. He is terrified of not being enough of letting me down. He doesn’t know how to have a girlfriend and feels he will disappoint me and is terrified of hurting me. His therapist has been helping him. I have depression so I understand him and he is very supportive and super soothing when I am down. We have been very close friends for 5 years. Over a year ago we became best friends. We started hanging around all the time. I started sleeping over until we ended up sleeping together. That was 6 months ago. We are a team, we are amazing together. Spend soooo many hours together doing nothing. I sleep over 3-4 times a week. He tells everyone I am his girlfriend, not me, too scary. He always wants me around. I have keys to his house, he has keys to my car. We share everything. I have a few things at his place.

I am moving in September, he insists to move to his neighborhood because he wants me t9 be closer to him. A few days ago someone was in his parking, security guard told me they had moved the car when I was on my way out to go home. So I informed him. He told me to come back and move in if I wanted to. He was talking about the parking. I told him my cats wouldn’t like living in the parking but that I would love to just to live close to him. Then Friday we had a party at his house so I took two dresses and hung them up. He saw the, and said: ahhh I see you are moving in! Then after everyone left I was in bed hugging the pillow and he asked if I had replaced him, I said I was just waiting for him. We cuddled and I said I hated leaving my cats alone and that I was gonna rent the apartment next door and break the walls down. He said he didn’t k ow if his cats would get along with mine. I told him that his were still babies and would make it easier to put them together, he said that that was true. We fell asleep.

Now, I am thinking if I should ask him to live together. I a, afraid that if that is something that we want if we wait the cats will be adults and may never accept each other so that maybe we should do it now. It’s convenient, I spend too much time back and forth, we love being with each other, we do everything together, see him almost every day. So maybe we should do it now!

Please don’t say anything if your answer is gonna be: give the cats away. We are both very committed to our cats, we love that from each other and would never accept that the other one does that. So if you are a cat hater please don’t say anything.