Ooooof I need help.

When LO was 12 weeks old he started sleeping 8hrs straight and it was amazing. Then a week later, he (and we) got the flu. He was up every 30-60 min and so were we. After about 3-4 weeks he was finally better but then we pretty much lost all the work we did sleep training wise. Now he’s 19 weeks and in the four month regression (and he caught another dang cold last week) so he’s really clinging onto sleep associations (nursing, rocking).

No matter how hard I try to keep him up while nursing before bed he just zonks right out. I try to wake him up before I put him down so that’s what he last remembers but he’s completely out. But I fail each time. So then, naturally, he wakes up screaming. Plus now, due to this four month development, he is waking more frequently than before since he’s experiencing all four sleep cycles. His sleep is worse now than it was at 2 months!

We’re going to move him to his crib in a few weeks (now that he’s on the mend from cold #2). He’s sleeping in a crib at daycare so that transition should hopefully be okay. Prefer not to cry it out but one morning I just gave up and after a few minutes he passed out 🤷🏻‍♀️

Any advice? Please no shaming. (For some reason any time I ask for help on here there’s always at least one person who criticizes me and tells me what I should have done. Can’t change the past!) Thanks!!