Too strict dad?

So our son is 7 years old & his dad seems a bit too strict. I don’t know if I’m being dramatic or I’m a woman so I’m more softer with him. His dad claims he needs to be raised Like a boy but sometimes I feel it’s too much. anybody have any similar situation? Example: son took coffee that was on our dresser and drank it while I was in shower. Husband was so mad yelling about it this morning as soon as soon woke up. I understand he shouldn’t touch things that aren’t his but it just seems too much to me. Now he’s mad at me for saying too relax about ky & saying I let our son do anything. Ladies do you ever have a situation where you seem like you’re disagreeing with dad?