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Nice way to ask someone for hand-me-downs?

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I have a friend who is awesome and his baby will be about 16 months when my first baby is born. I know he has baby stuff he isn't using anymore, mostly newborn stuff like a tub insert and bassinet, because his kiddo is too big for them. How can I ask him politely for his baby stuff he doesn't need or use anymore? Is this a dumb thing to do? Would you think it was weird if someone asked you for that kind of thing?

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I wouldn't ask someone for their stuff. They would volunteer it if they wanted you to have it. How do you know they dont plan on using it in the future for another child?

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M • May 11, 2019
OR, situations evolve over the course of a few days as more information becomes available. Again, though, thanks anyway.

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Ashley • May 10, 2019
Uh k... maybe you should give the full story then when asking for help.

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M • May 10, 2019
That's not actually what happened. But thanks anyway!

Ka

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I think it's super strange to ask someone else for their things. It's not yours and it's not their responsibility to supply you with baby items. If they offer, then great. But I think it's rude and weird to be asking if you can have their belongings.

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M • May 11, 2019
This feels like a deliberate misunderstanding of the premise of the question. Trust I am not making entitled demands of my friends, simply looking for a way to approach the subject.

KA

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Perhaps ask what they are going to do with the baby stuff? If they say get rid of it .. tell em you'll be more than willing to take it off their hands..🤷‍♀️😊

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KA • May 10, 2019
Agreed.. 🤔 Maybe just ask him to ask Mom?

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M • May 10, 2019
This is what I did. He said there's a bunch of stuff waiting for me. I think its different talking to dads than to moms. Sometimes men aren't thinking in the same way about this stuff.

Ja

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Just because they have stuff they aren’t using doesn’t mean it’s up for grabs. Our daughter is 9mos and we have all her stuff but have zero intentions of giving it away. Once we decide if we’re trying for another or not then we will be either using it again or selling because that shit gets expensive.

Si

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Give her a hint, that you are looking at this and that on Facebook marketplace (or similar) and just casual ask : of many you have this and that that I could barrow/have?
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