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So I’ve been called ugly, creepy, awkward, and gross by my peers at school and I’m just curious about how others perceive me and what can I do to improve myself. Plus I posted a selfie on insta and this one person said I was a 4/10 I didn’t care at first but 7 ppl liked it. That completely shattered my self esteem lmao then they said “don’t boost her. She’s kinda ugly. Let’s be straight here” anyways please don’t sugarcoat anything I don’t want ppl to feel bad for me and say “ur beautiful don’t listen to them” I just want advice. It’s like I came to the realization that I was unattractive this whole time and only adults would compliment me😒 Btw I wear big glasses with sweatshirts all the time so I don’t always look presentable and my hair looks unkept in a bun.

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Your features are beautiful. People would kill for your eyes and lips. I think implementing a self-care skin regimen would be important for you to keep your skin healthy and even looking. I love the bun, it’s my go to style as well… but It’s always nice to do something different with our hair because it makes us feel good! If you feel like the bun is easiest for you, but you think it looks unkempt, then try just adding a little bit of product to keep down your flyaways.
But I’m going to have to be like all of the other adults in your life and tell you that you can’t listen to these people. They are cruel and ugly on the inside, and anyone like that is not someone you need an opinion from. We are all different and unique in our own ways and that’s what makes us beautiful. Your self-esteem comes from you, not from everyone else. The definition of self-esteem is the opinion you hold of yourself. If that opinion is a good one, then whatever anyone else says are just meaningless opinions. I’m also assuming that you posted a picture asking people to rate you? Don’t do that to yourself. Every single person has a different idea of what beautiful is. Doing this to yourself is only hurting you and that is not self love. Self-love is being kind to yourself regardless of any of your perceived flaws.

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Honestly I don’t think you’re ugly, but if you walk around looking frowny like that maybe try smiling. Try putting on mascara enhancing your natural beauty. Try putting down your hair/ taking showers before school. But it is important to not care what others think, after 6 years or so those people will be long gone out of your life.

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Do you think you are beautiful? That’s the only opinion that matters. Not kids at school and not the people on this app, or instagram or any other app. You are your own person and you are beautiful in a million ways other people can’t see at first glance. It’s not about everybody else’s opinion, how do YOU think you look? What do you love about yourself? I love your lips they are gorgeous and your complexion is great, but is that what you’re going to be thinking about years from now? Nah, you’re going to be so happy you’re surrounded by people that love you for all the things that make you beautiful as a person, not just your looks. As soon as you start believing you are absolutely gorgeous as a whole that’s all the assurance you will need. You are beautiful and you are also still growing, your “beauty” isn’t at its peak yet you grow into yourself and gain confidence and learn to love yourself whether it’s the way you look on prom night or just waking up in the morning bareface. Don’t worry about other’s opinions on this..it’s not important.

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I think you're lovely and have alot of natural beauty! Smile more hun!

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Also I used to be called ugly in school and this is me. So yeah people are just mean to be mean.

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Let me tell you something. First of all you’re beautiful. Not even lying I’m super straight up and you are. Second these kids are just projecting their insecurities on you and if I could tell my middle school self how beautiful I actually was I would. I thought I was so disgusting in middle school and now that I look back at it I see that I really just looked like me. People always tell me “you’ve  had a glow up since then and you’re so pretty” the main thing that changed though was my mentality. I stopped feeling like I was a “lost cause” and “ugly” and I grew into my looks. I started taking better care of my hair and skin and the rest just happened. So don’t be concerned about what others say or take it to heart because your mentality on yourself is the most important thing beautiful💖

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I just want to say you look absolutely gorgeous and very VERY beautiful!!!

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Where’s Jameela Jamil when I need her most?? People your age just say mean things like this because they’re self-conscious & need to divert attention away from their own insecurities. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with you. And no matter what you do to change yourself, those mean people will always find something to drag you down over. 
If there’s a new look you want to experiment with or like your current style, both are awesome options! As long as it’s whatever you want to do for YOU, not to appease these awful people. Keep that adorable chin up, those beautiful eyes wide & those perfectly pouty lips ready to deliver class & sass to this world.

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I used to get called ugly all the time I left those ppl behind and got my own self confidence not based on other peoples opinions. I learned how to do makeup which makes me very confident and developed my own style

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Dude, your eyes are like they are already wearing eyeliner, your brows are perfect, your skin tone is beautiful, your cheekbones are amazing, these are fucked up people who have low self esteem and need to bring others down. There is nothing you can do to change people's perspectives but show them that you are confident. Switching to a new school for middle school was one of the best decisions I've made because it gave me a chance at a new slate. Maybe make your social media acc private so only ppl u know can see, and what always helps is to give myself a little me time before the school week. Shower, use a face mask, watch a  movie, and go all out on the skincare. That's what helps me. Also, if you are still going to school next year, change up your look over the summer and do what you think makes you beautiful and come back with confidence because people will catch on and if they dont, fuck them

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