Always trust your gut ladies

Ladies if your gut is telling you something is wrong, please listen! Most of the time it’s right. Let me tell you a story.. it’s long.

So I was dating this guy for a few months. Last month, we got into an argument because he was hanging out with another girl. When he first met this girl, he told me that this girl will only be used to help him with his acting. So I was fine with that, I’m not the kind of girl that doesn’t want my guy to have girl friends. But every time he hung out with this girl, (mind you this girl lives about 30 mins away from where he lives so he would drive to her house and pick her up) they didn’t do anything pertaining to his acting. Every time I would call him, him and this girl would be shopping, going out to eat and other things. One time he spent the ENTIRE day with this girl. He told me not to worry about this because he would never cheat on me and he saw this girl as a sister. Now I’m cool with some things but I’m not okay with my man spending all day with another female so we got into an argument and he basically said that he won’t stop seeing the girl because he “needs” her to help with his acting so I broke up with him🤷🏾‍♀️this is where my gut started to feel funny. I didn’t speak to him for 3 days. When we did speak, he told me that he doesn’t “love” me anymore and wanted to be just friends. Another red flag for me because this boy was MADLY in love with me, trust me when I say this and now only 3 days of not talking, you don’t love me anymore 🤔 sounds fishy but I accepted that. It hurt badly because I was in love with him and I couldn’t understand how he was madly in love with me a few days earlier and now he didn’t love me. I tried getting back with him but eventually gave up. I was miserable and so sad while he went on with his life. About a week ago, I stupidly wrote him a letter and decided to mail it to his house. Before I did this, I messaged his friend and asked him if he was seeing someone, specifically this girl because I didn’t wanna send the letter if he had a girl. His friend told me no but something in my gut was telling me that he was LYING. But I ignored my gut and sent the letter anyways. So today I saw on Snapchat (we still had each other on social media) a picture that he posted and guess who was in the picture?? THE GIRL HE TOLD ME NOT TO WORRY ABOUT. They were all cozied up looking like a couple. I feel sick to my stomach. I’m pretty sure they are talking now. I just don’t get it, why lie? I’m so mad and hurt and upset. I feel like a fool for sending that letter now. I just deleted him and his friend off everything. I’m done with him. Im so done with relationships. Please trust your gut when you feel something isn’t right.