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Getting broody

So I've never wanted babies, the thought of an independent life where I can see the world, spend money and live life without any real worries about others has always appealed more to me than responsibility and restriction. Sounds selfish I know but it's just the way I've always been. I'm not a selfish person, I very much enjoy looking after my SO in so far as making him food and relaxing him after work and I've always had animals, including many horses that have occupied my time.

I'm now 25, I have a mortgage, my degree and a good job. Most importantly I've seen a lot of the world and have been blessed to have been able to travel.

I came out of a bad relationship about a year ago and have been with my new partner who's 28, for about 8 months now.

We are definitely in love and he actually has twins from a previous marriage. He was in the forces and got married "too young" without having lived with his ex beforehand. They now have an amicable relationship and she has also moved on.

The trouble I'm having recently is that something seems to have triggered in my brain and I'm driving myself mad thinking about getting pregnant.

I look at him with his sons and it drives me wild with desire for him. My ex fiancé was terribly irresponsible and selfish and when I see my current partner with so much love and such a caring nature towards his children it makes me want to jump on him!

So far, this is not something we have discussed because it's still quite early in the relationship. However at the beginning of the relationship, when I was actually feeling quite content that he already had children, I once said something along the lines of "well I've shirked my childbearing duties haven't I... Because you already have yours and I'm really not planning on having kids"

He just smiled, said "never say never" and kissed me.

Lately I feel like I'm going crazy with this broodiness and I can't believe I'm saying this but I feel ready. I want him to be the father of my child.

I just want to know if y' all think I'm crazy if I actually talk to him about this as a possibility??

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