My SO’s sister was diagnosed with Liver Disease a few years ago. She desperately needs a new liver and her health is getting worst. She is on the donor list to get one but so far nothing has happened. A donor would only need to donate part of his/her liver.

A few of their siblings have tried to go through the process of helping but none of them so far is a match. It’s pretty much down to my SO. I’ll be honest and say I don’t want him to get tested and have been trying to come up with other options. It seems like this approach isn’t going to work anymore since he is the last one left in his family.

I’m aware this is incredibly selfish to not want it to be him but I care more about his well being and the life we have built together.

My SO makes significantly more than me and we have been TTC for 8 months. If something terrible were to happen to him or he was pulled from work for a while, we would definitely suffer financially. We have finally arrived at a comfortable place financially and it’s unclear how much surgery and the recovery will cost. Not to mention what would happen if I got pregnant or the impact it would have on even continuing TTC.

I’m not a terrible person and I don’t want my SO’s sister to suffer anymore but I’m also afraid of my SO’s health and how it could ultimately impact our life.

I would just like to get a few opinions about this situation.