I NEVER want to have sex

Really, never. I’m 20, healthy weight, on the pill, live with my boyfriend of almost 2 years who I love very much and I’m very attracted to. But we never have sex or do anything anymore pretty much cause I never want to. And I feel bad because it’s been like this for months, and I want to want to because I want to make him happy and I know being intimate is an important part of a relationship. Everything else between us is going so well, and we don’t argue about not having sex, I just really want to overcome this for both of us

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Em

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Maybe try changing your pill? Could be lowering your libido.

Ta

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The nexplanon birth control killed my libido. I seriously never wanted sex, but after taking it out my bf and I have been like rabbits and I love sex again!

Ka

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My too. The idea of sex is just boring. I have no sex drive. But I just give in when he initiates. I usually end up liking by the end and then it's over 🤷

Em

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22 years here and same. My sex drive disappeared when I got pregnant with our daughter, came back full force after I gave birth but then disappeared again at about 4 weeks postpartum and didn't return until I got my periods back at 8 months postpartum buuuuut then I got pregnant again right away 😂I have zero desire and I feel so guilty. During the day I'll be like "I'm going to hit on him and we're going to have sex tonight" but then night comes, our daughter is in her bed and I just can't be bothered anymore 😭

Ch

Chasity • May 23, 2019
the guilt is horrible omg. I’m the same. He’ll be at work all day and I’ll be home thinking “ok, I need to get over it. When he gets home I’m gonna look cute and we’ll have sex and everyone will be happy.” Then he gets home and I’m like ugh stop touching me 🤨

F

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It could be from the pill! Maybe see if you can try a different type...

Be

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Talk to your doctor about it. The pill killed my libido, it might be doing the same to you.

Ch

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This is how I was most of my 20s. I found out when we finally started trying to conceive our son that it was 100% from the pill. Here I was, going to therapy because I thought something was wrong with me and it was all from the pill. I was angry that it upset my sex life for so long, but happy I figured it out.

MN

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Could be the pill. Try changing

co

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Maybe the birth control you’re on is affecting your sex drive. That’s a rather common side effect. Birth control works in two ways I guess lol. But I recommend talking to your gyno about it and seeing if switching your pill would work.

Ch

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ME !!! It’s horrible! I’m 21, our relationship is a amazing in all other aspects, but I have NO sex drive whatsoever. We don’t argue about it but obviously he wishes we would have sex more... his birthday is this weekend AND he’s buying me a car the day before (we have a baby on the way so its more of a family car) so looks like I’ll be having to get over it lol. But I know how you feel. The guilt is probably the worst part.