My FIL is one of my least favorite people ever! He is absolutely not sensitive to anyone else’s feelings, says whatever he pleases with no regard to how it makes others feel, purposely leaves messes in stores because “it’s their job to clean it up”, calls people awful derogatory names, comments on other people’s weight (while being over 300 pounds himself), tells me I’m unintelligent because I only have a bachelor’s degree (that’s more than anyone in the entire family has besides him), screams at anyone who ever questions anything he says, constantly talks about and makes inappropriate/lustful comments about “hot/sexy” women with his wife standing right there, the list could go on forever!

My husband used to hold his dad in such high esteem saying he was such a great person, great husband, so smart, so Christian, etc. Over the past year my husband has realized that his dad is not those things. He’s beginning to see how truly awful his dad is. I have held my tongue about almost everything, but luckily my husband finally realized this on his own. It honestly makes me so happy! My husband spent his whole life trying to make his dad happy but never really succeeding. His dad always pointed out how he could have done better or would call him an idiot for things he did (that were not idiotic at all.) His dad never liked his sense of style and constantly calls him gay/homo/other names.

My FIL is no longer supporting his family. He had to close his business because it was not creating any revenue (probably due to the fact that he only wanted to work 2 days per week for a few hours each day but refused to hire anyone else.) He found a different job that seemed great. But after only 2 weeks, he can’t handle going to work 5 days per week. He also had several complaints filed on him for either hurting people (he’s a chiropractor) or just being flat out rude. Now his wife who has not worked in about 15 years has 2 jobs plus a couple side things she’s trying to sell. I don’t feel entirely sorry for her though, as she blows through money like there’s no tomorrow and refuses to learn about budgeting because that’s all “a bunch of horse shit that doesn’t work.”

Is it terrible that I am happy that my husband no longer looks up to his dad? Now instead he looks up to men in our church who are great fathers and husbands. They truly follow God, care about others, accept others’ opinions, extend grace, and admit when they are wrong.