hi guys i’m 21 & my husband is 22. we have been together since high school when we were 15 & 16. we have lived together since i was 18 & him 19 so basically have been acting like a married couple for years. i’ve always been insecure in our relationship because he would go out and no text back and wouldn’t tell me where he was because i wasn’t his mother. in 2017 we moved from ohio to missouri and everything was fine, until he became distant and i started wondering. i found messaged to another girl he named wifey in his phone while we were engaged, naked pictures and he even visited her and lied to me. i never said anything. i know dumb. we got married still in july 2018 and he never went a day without threatening divorce. he would be like if you don’t have anal with me we are getting divorced so me being dumb tried it even when it hurt and i didn’t want to. he brought up 3 some and i even started to agree to that because i thought it would save my marriage. now fast forward to January 2019 he starts acting weird again and so i start creepying i find this person names “r” in his phone and the text says i wish we could watch netflix and cuddle a girl can dream. i let it go for a couple weeks. finally i bring up the courage to confront him about both and he brings up divorce. never actually sat down and talked to me. since confronting him i have been numb. like did your vows not mean anything? i gave you the world and you still did this? i just need some advice on what i should do please.