Pregnancy after stillbirth loss

Hi ladies,
​I wanted to create a group for anyone else who might have had a late term loss. I lost my daughter at 34 weeks, and am 28 weeks pregnant with a second little girl. I've found this pregnancy to be somewhat 'bi-polar' - still dealing with the hurt of loss while being excited about the future. Not to mention having these feelings with pregnancy hormones! 
​Few seem to know what to say and to relate. Hopefully this will be a space to help support and be supported.  
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Kr

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I lost my son Timothy February 11th of this year, and gave birth to him on the 12th. I was 24 weeks. My period is supposed to come in two days and I hope it doesn't. SO and I had sex on ovulation days so I really hope I'm pregnant. This is the 1st month we've been ttc. We needed time to get through losing him. I wish all of you ladies good luck and I'm sorry for your losses.

Lu

Lupe • Sep 30, 2014
I'm sorry for your loss... but congrats on your pregnancy!!

Kr

Kristen • Sep 30, 2014
1 day today. I hope everyone gets their rainbows!

Kr

Kristen • Sep 30, 2014
I am pregnant! I'm so scared and its overwhelming but I have the dirt u/s October 9th, I'll be 7 weeks. I'm 6 weeks and

Er

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I had a mc at 15weeks then 6 months later I was pregnant again then lost my son at 23weeks and a few weeks later I found out I'm pregnant again, now 8 weeks & 4 days :)

Lu

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I lost my full term baby boy at 42+ weeks during labor. My pregnancy was perfect and healthy, he past due to medical negligence. It will be 7 years in February. Since then I have had two more rainbow babies... both boys! I still think of my little angel every single day, his death still affects me to this day and even though I might have some days where I feel that I can't go on, I do, and I know that he sent me his brothers to help me through it. I love my all my babies and I am happy. Just wanted to share my story in case any one needs some closure. You will find happiness again. Stay strong ladies.

To

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Sorry to read about your loss. You came so close to success at 34 weeks. So surprising. My opinion is that a woman gets that far along, then there us no fear of an MC like in the 1st trimester; unless she's injured somehow. What happened? But...You don't have to recall the pain. Just focus on this bright future. Maybe this time you'll carry your pregnancy full-term.

Sa

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I lost my son 39 week 4 day

Me

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How do u cope with the loss? Drs can't tell if I miscarried or not. I went for ultrasound today and all they said is that it doesn't look good. This will be my 7th mc. 

Je

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We had an early MC of our first in 2011, lost him or her only a week after we even found out. Got pregnant with triplets last year and list them at 21 weeks because of an infection in utero. We will have lost them a year ago this week, and last week we found out we were pregnant again.​​It had been a hard road of infertility and loss, but I love all 5 of my babies. Though it is hard to be terrified and talk to others about what is going on inside my mind and heart.​​After losing 4 already, I am TERRIFIED to be pregnant. I can only rest in the fact that the Lord has been and continues to be with our clan through everything, knitting little lives for a short time and leaving a huge impact in my heart and in our community.  

Mi

Michelle • Sep 11, 2014
Read this book it helped me I'm sure it will help you.. It's called supernatural child birth by Jackie Mize

Je

Jennifer • Sep 9, 2014
Thank you, we actually found out today that we are losing this one as well. It is a hard week. May God shine through it!

Kr

Kristin • Sep 9, 2014
My heart is with you Jennifer and all 5 babies. Hugs.

Ka

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Just got BFP and nervous. I lost my son at 23 weeks in July. I'm not sure when to make appointment but feel I should be seen earlier. My doctor told me I didn't need to be monitored any earlier when I did get pregnant again. Hoping this pregnacy sticks as I had only 1 cycle after loss. Jakob was confirmed to have trisomy 13 which is very rare but I'm still worried it will happen again.​

Kr

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I am 27 weeks after losing my first son at 36 weeks. In between, I had another boy who made it and is almost 2. I totally get the bi-polar feeling. I still just want to be normal and oblivious, but it's hard. Xoxo be kind to your self and feel all the emotions you need to :)

Ti

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I'm so sorry everyone.  My heart hurts for each and everyone of you.  This is a difficult process to be sure.  I'm going through MC #2 in 6 mo. as I write, and can relate to the feelings of guilt and feeling torn.  I wouldn't allow myself to feel on baby #2 until last week for same reasons, then let my guard down only to learn last week he had passed.  I'm happy for all of you to hear of your new news and will keep all of us in my prayers.  We each have baby angels who visited us for a brief time who are watching out over us all. Xoxo