hey y’all! I need some advice . I’m currently in an interracial relationship, I’m black and he’s white & we recently started talking about having children and blah blah blah. I use to want kids, sooo bad. I feel like I’m here to be a mom! But, in this current world, with all the negative and terrible things happening to black men, I’m terrified to have a child, especially a son. Also, with all these abortion laws, and women no longer having all the rights to their bodies, i can only imagine what’ll happen in the upcoming years.

Anyway, yesterday we were talking about it and I told him how I don’t really want kids anymore, for those reasons. I don’t want to raise a black son in a country where there’s so much hate towards him, or raise a daughter who doesn’t have a say in what happens to her body.

I asked him if he thought i was being selfish, and he said no. Then a couple hours later, he told me that he thought i was.

He thinks he has a say in me wanting to have children, and I told him that he doesn’t. I feel like he doesn’t have a say in this hypothetical child. He doesn’t have a say until I actually get pregnant (if I ever do) but we got into a fight because he feels as though he has a say right now, when I don’t think he does. Am I actually being selfish? I do feel like I am to an extent, but I don’t feel like I’m In the wrong... Am I?