To Have Another or No?

Our daughter is 7 months old now and we’re talking about whether we want another baby. A little bit about us: we are financially secure. Late 20’s and late 30’s. Our last pregnancy was complicated by gestational diabetes and I had severe morning sickness all day for the first 20 weeks. We think if I lose weight it would help with the next pregnancy.

But I also had a traumatic birthing experience and pregnancy. At 20 weeks, I was diagnosed with placenta previa, making it dangerous for me to go into labor. I ended up going into labor the night before my schedule c-section and they were able to wait until the morning to do the procedure. Then, when they did the epidural, they overshot and it ended up being a spinal block, I was incredibly out of it, and my husband thought I was dead on the table.

We both love our baby and we are both supportive of having another one. But I’m not 100%. Keeping our daughter an only child gives her 100% of the attention, love and money her parents and family members can give. Having another one seems selfish.

What do you think? Are you a parent who had another and wishes she hadn’t? Or a parent who regrets their decision not to have more? Did you grow up an only child and long for a sibling? I want to hear how being an only child impacted you.