How often do you feel beautiful?

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After reading the post on here 'Letting Yourself Go after kids' I'll admit I felt like shit. There were tons of posts condemning women for not getting dressed up/made up daily to impress their husbands. I know who I am as a person, and I know my husband doesn't really care about those thing, but it still made me feel crappy when reading the responses especially the one that said they saw it as being disrespectful to your husband.

Another thing I'll admit is that a majority of the time, dressed up or not, I don't feel beautiful. I'm 6 months pregnant and have a toddler and no matter how much effort i put in I still feel like I look like shit.

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Can you imagine how shitty it must be to walk around every day worrying your face disrespects your husband? Your husband loves you just the way you are, THEY should be envying YOU. I know how lucky I am to have a man that thinks I'm beautiful no matter what... I wish everyone could experience that.

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It's heartbreaking that no one answered "always"

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I have found since becoming a mother, that sometimes you have to redefine your idea of what feeling beautiful is. Some days you have it all together, the hair, the makeup, the clothes. Some days you're lucky to have one of those lol. But for me, I pick out one thing to focus on that makes me feel pretty that day. Even if my hair is greasy, I'm sick, I'm dressed like a hobo lol, I'll say wow, my skin is super clear today. Some days it's that my hair is unusually shiny. Or the color shirt I'm wearing brings out my eyes. Just one thing that I can look at and say "this is pretty."

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When my self esteem is low my boyfriend always cheers me up. When I was sick I looked like ass and I told him that and he says I can't look like ass he doesn't believe it even when I sent pictures. He loves me all natural and in the past 6 months of dating him, I've gained 15lbs and he doesn't care. He actually encouraged my weight gain because I had an abusive relationship before him and he made me stay size 0. So most of the time I do feel beautiful and that's because he's helped me see that I'm beautiful.

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Ok ladies my wife is 18 weeks with our first and she used to be obsessive about her hair and her makeup and making sure everything was perfect. To be honest she's stopped wearing makeup all together she ties her hair up and puts on whatever fits as far as clothes go. She's a teacher so it's still dressed decent put the style changed obviously with a growing baby bump. To be honest with you I tell her every day that she is beautiful because she is and I want her to know it. I didn't fall in love with her for her makeup of her perfectly done hair or her painted nails. She is the same woman that I fell in love with but now she has our daughter growing in her and I couldn't be more grateful for her. My wife is beautiful weather she wears sweat pants and a shirt or a blouse and dress pants. I don't find it disrespectful that she doesn't put on makeup. Makeup is her choice. It wouldn't bother me if she never wore makeup again. I still look at her everyday and smile as should your significant others because being a mother and giving someone a child is something so selfless a gift that could never be repaid. Now I'll be honest I know my wife doesn't always feel beautiful she just cried before going to sleep telling me that she was disgusting because she has acne now and prepregnancy she had clear skin. Acne is nothing it will go away and she worries about the stretch marks but I won't let her call them that they are "baby love marks" from where our little girl wants some more space. I'm sorry this is long ladies but please don't ever feel like you aren't beautiful you are all beautiful and amazing.

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Always. Its my duty as a mum to a 7 year old girl who is already conscience of her figure and the idea of dieting, to always show that I am beautiful no matter how I might look at that time.

I never felt this way about myself or what true beauty is until that morning I heard "I need to go on a diet mumma!". I cried. My then 5 year old thought that not only is she fat, but its not acceptable.

We now have girls mornings where you must be in a bathing suit to participate. The bathing suit is so she can see that I'm not ashamed of my body, and that she has nothing to hide either.

It makes me sad to see some of the votes are for rarely. I don't expect everyone to change over night. If you have children (even if you don't), especially daughters, please don't hold yourself to someone elses ideals. Hold your head high and know that you are beautiful.

It also helps that every morning for the past 11+ years my husband has asked me every single morning "has anyone told you how beautiful you are today?"

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I do not wear makeup on a daily basis and I never have. The only time I've ever worn makeup was my wedding day, and I was so reluctant to wear it but the females of my family were very forceful. I think if a woman feels more beautiful *for herself* while wearing makeup, then go ahead. But women should NEVER wear makeup just to please their spouse. Since becoming pregnant I feel so much more beautiful around my husband, and it really helps that it tells me often how beautiful I look with a growing belly and before. I thought the original post you are referring to was incredibly rude, and I think it put a lot of the Glow women down. Whoever wrote it has no idea what people have to wake up and deal with everyday and cannot expect every single person to wake up and strap on war paint and make their hair perfect while having enough time to get the kids up, fed, dressed, and ready for school. More power to you if you have the energy and ability to do it everyday, but I won't even try. My hair hasn't been straightened in 2 months and I don't wear so much as eyeliner. I feel beautiful in my skin and I wish every woman did because no matter what anyone says you are your own beautiful.

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This post made me so sad. I don't know what to say for people who think women must look beautiful for their husbands all the time...just that they are misguided and frankly wrong. I wouldn't give their words much weight or regard.
I'm sure your husband loves you and thinks you're beautiful. I'm sure when he sees you with your child and pregnant with the next child your family is expecting I'm sure he thinks you're the most beautiful thing in the word. When he just sees you I'm sure he thinks you're the most beautiful thing in the world.
Try to take some time soon to just be close with him. I know that's when I always feel best with my boyfriend---when we are just close, comfortable, and ourselves.
I hope you feel better. 💙

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I missed the post you are talking about but I'm gonna guess and say the person who said it's disrespectful toward your husband either has it made and has little to few responsibilities or doesn't have children. I'm married, work full time, part time student, and I have a toddler. I bust my ass from the minute I get up until I give in at night and finally go to bed. It's 10:00 pm here and I just cleaned up from dinner. I don't have time to worry about whether or not I look beautiful for my husband. Don't get me wrong, I have not at all let myself go. I'm actually in better shape than I was before I had my daughter. However, I don't go and redo my makeup and hair when I know my husband is on his way home. Sorry. I just don't have time for that!!!

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I am a sweatpants loving women. I never do my makeup or my hair. I shower throw sweats on n throw my hair in a pony tail or braid it. My husband loves me just the same if not more. I wear a uniform for a living and he cud care less bout if I spend hours getting ready. My priorities r just different then other females. I'd rather shower n dress real quick and have more time with my kids then spend hours in the bathroom. My husband and kids tell me I'm the most beautiful person they know! It's no ones business to judge me for not dressing up or saying I let myself go. IMHO y does any other female care what I look like? I've been judged for it but idc. I also protect the country bc I'm military so ladies judge away!

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