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Question

If I do what I need to, I feel better, but if I continue not to do the things I have to it just builds up and makes it makes me feel worse (depressed) overtime. How do I stop dwelling on the things I have to do everyday so that I actually don't tire myself out from doing them at all?

Sorry if confusing, it's just that I'm noticing that I will dwell on having to do something so bad to the point that I can't sleep at night, it tires me out from doing anything at all. I mentally, which it eventually turns into physically, exhaust myself. I'm trying to learn how
to get more done during the day.

Answer

Well let me know when you find out what to do because I've had this problem for as long as I can remember. I'm 25 now, and I still feel like I'm just as far from discovering how to prevent those feelings as I was 15 years ago when I really remember my anxiety starting. I think it's anxiety. That's all I can attribute it to. And for those recommending you make lists, good luck. I started writing before bed when I was 12 and ended up getting addicted to it. I couldn't sleep because all I would do was write because the thoughts never end. One thing leads to another and it never stops. I had a whole attic filled with notebooks after a few years. My parents ended up burning them all in the yard shortly after sending me to counseling.  The therapist said I have obsessive compulsive thought disorder, anxiety, and depression. Anyway, I finally weaned myself off the writing when I was 20. I would just drink myself to sleep...then I became an alcoholic... I quit drinking though when I became pregnant earlier this year. The pregnancy actually helped me control my thoughts and calm down some, but now that I've already had the baby, they're starting to come back. I just lay here thinking about everything. So... Like I said, let me know if you figure something out.

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I do the same - its called rumination and it's a common trait for depressive people to have. when I catch myself doing it I try to redirect myself to something else: focusing on my breath, naming things around me, imagining a song in my head, imagining putting my thoughts in a box and closing it shut. then I try to notice how it feels relieving to not be obsessivly thinking about whatever it was.

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I think that you should make a list of the things you have to do. Put the things you don't mind doing, and the most important on the top of the list. The least important and least fun go on the bottom. Spread the least of the least out over the week and set up small rewards for yourself when you do get them done. Some days I will go get ice cream or at the end of the week go get a new book. Reward yourself for making it through the struggle of having a busy life. Most importantly it gives you a small amount of you time. I hope this helps you!

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That sounds like an experience that might be related to adhd. You could google adhd in adult women and see if anything seems familiar. Depression and adhd often go together!

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