Our baby girl is due June 10, and husband is starting a new job in early July. It was extremely important to him that his grandparents meet our little one (first great grandbaby, and she’ll be named after her great grandpa) before he goes back to work.

They are handicapped and require a lot of help, but I told him they could come as long as he and I wouldn’t be expected to care for or accommodate them. Our focus needs to be on our baby! They booked flights to visit for a week, and they will arrive two weeks after she’s due.

They have a tight budget, so my husband wants to offer them our master bedroom (on our first floor) rather than having them get a hotel room - which they already offered to do.

How do I reason with him and explain that:

1. We will have a newborn and probably will not be in a place to accommodate anyone’s needs.

2. Our entire lives with the baby will be set up in our bedroom, and we’d be giving up any sort of rhythm we’ve established at that point.

3. Feeling out of place in my own home... again, with a newborn. (Knocking every time I need to change my shirt, underwear, etc)

4. I will still be healing from the birth, and dealing with ALL THE HORMONES.

5. I am an introvert and need my space and a place to escape.

They have stayed with us before, and they basically stayed in bed the whole time they were here, unless we were out being tourists... which we obviously won’t be doing this time around. It drove me nuts then, and I cannot commit the same level of accommodation this time around.

We keep having the conversation about making the “hard decisions for what our little family needs”, and I’m not budging on my stance. I just want him to have my back with this decision. Any tips for getting through to him?