5 months pregnant w/ s/o problems. I needed to vent

I don’t feel wanted by my boyfriend.

We’re constantly having arguments (almost everyday, for sure 1-2x a week), and he’s not affectionate towards me anymore. We haven’t had sex in almost 3 weeks.

I try to dress cute, and wear things to bed to get his attention but it doesn’t seem to work. I’m so tired of always crying and being sad thinking I’m the issue. I’m constantly thinking if things are like this now it’s gonna get worst when the baby gets here.

We’re constantly fighting about him coming home late from work. He gets off at 2am, but finds excuses to stay out even later when I’m already constantly wondering where he’s at. We’re always arguing about him drinking. Lately, he likes to get drunk and yell at me about shit we argued about recently.

We’ve been together 8 years and we live together but since I been pregnant I feel like we’re never on the same page. He doesn’t say I love you like he use to, he doesn’t try to cuddle with me, he doesn’t hold my hand, he’s not affectionate. We argue all the time. He apologizes, but the next week he does the same shit. I’ve asked if he even wants to be in a relationship and he says yeah, but when we argue it’s “I don’t care” , “I’m not changing shit” etc.

I just need someone to talk to! Every time I express how I feel, he says I’m trying to change him or be controlling. It’s like why the fuck do you ask how I feel if you might it seem like my feelings are validated.

***UPDATE: we had a good conversation Friday about everything. For once no one was getting defensive or upset. We actually heard each other’s point of views. Saturday he came home right now after work, and he took off work today (Sunday) so we can spend the whole day together. Let’s hope he keeps this up. Overall, we talked about communicating better. Also, we had sex last night. It didn’t feel forced. When we woke up, he made the effort to cuddle, and he was cuddling with me last night as well. throughout the day hanging out with friends he would hold me from behind, rub my back, and make sure he was being affectionate. Let’s hope this isn’t just a phrase to shut me up.