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Ok soooo... anyone else wish they could be the father sometimes instead of the mommy?!? I just feel so freaking overwhelmed sometimes. Literally MINIMAL to no help from SO when it comes to baby and I get it.. I’m on maternity leave he’s working so when he comes home he wants to unwind. But literally every time I need or ask for help with baby he MAKES himself busy with anything else. I Pump and feed expressed milk more then I nurse and bedtime feed is always a bottle and yet I am always the one putting her to bed and then getting her settled in each time she fusses. And on weekends he doesn’t even TRY to wake up with Her in the morning.. Not once has he done it just to let me sleep in (which i feel is like the one easy thing for dads to do to make new moms swoon! And baby is just SO happy in the morning why would you wanna miss it?!,) unless I have asked and even then it’s only happened twice in her 4 months. I do morning and bedtime routine and am tending to her needs all day and all throughout the night... not that I don’t absolutely cherish this time with her I just seriously wish I had a little help sometimes! I hear very similar stories from so many mamas and It makes me literally go “man, what it must feel like to father a child! all the reward and none of the challenge” our sex life has dwindled to nothing since I’m breastfeeding and feel absolutely no urge.. (I hear this is common?!) I tell myself all the time to just suck it up and let him have his needs met but every time it comes down to it I’m so exhausted, already asleep and being woken, or just so pissed off I can’t bring myself to “grin and bare it” I feel like if he just put in a LITTLE more effort I could just deal with sex for him. He even tried to bribe me the other night when he was drunk.. said if I had sex with him he’d wake up with baby in the ama! Ladies let me tell you.. the reaction and thoughts going through my head at this proposal! Just do it and get some much needed rest in the morning??!! But the fury was so freaking real. He can’t even wake up with his daughter without a reward! Must be freaking nice to know that it will be taken care of anyway so why bother 😭😭 pic to remind myself how damn worth it she is