Mother-in-law, the woman who birthed my husband 33 years ago and is now the reason why I believe I have started going gray at 26.

I’ve been with my husband for 5 years. Things were great between Tammy in the beginning. We weren’t buddies, but, she’s not even that close to her children. She’s not a cuddly, warm woman. For two years things were fine! I didn’t have anything negative to say about her.

Enter our wedding. Things changed. Tammy told me she preferred if he would have married his Ex. “She was stunning. They were so perfect together.” I shrugged it off. She knew she had cheated on him. She didn’t really say that, did she? She continued to say off hand complements. I continued to ignore them because this was his mom, she raised him and I’m sure she was having a hard time sharing him. Even though he had moved out 10 years before we met.

My daughter came into the picture. Now she tells her things like “you don’t like your mommy, just you wait and see!”

I put a stop to that, but, who knows what she says when I’m not around. She’s also teaching her bad things. 🙄 she’ll take her toys from her and scream “Mine!” And wait for my daughter to do it back. I asked her to stop and my husband got mad at ME! “That’s just how she plays!” 🙄🙄🙄🤔 now my daughter takes things from us and screams “Mine!” Thanks Tammy.

I could go on and on about things she says to belittle me, things she does to make people think less of me. Any advice? I don’t want my unsupportive husband mad at me. But, I’m so sick of this woman. I’ve played nice but, I’m done. I’ve tried repeating what she says back to her so for example:

Tammy: “Wow, such a pretty picture of you!” Holding a picture of me and my husband before we got engaged. “You’ll never look like that again.”

Me: “So, you’re saying I’ll never be as attractive as that again?”

Her: “what? Oh, I was just thinking out loud.”

🤬 doesn’t work on her. She says crap like that allllllllll the time.

What do I do? Things to say? Calling her out doesn’t help.

Thank you in advance.