I’ve felt all my life that my mom resents me. She always says how great her job was before kids and she tries scaring me out of having kids right now by describing how awful having kids is.

Worst of all She’s based my entire upbringing on comparing me to other girls and teaching me to do the same. She tells me not to be slutty like that girl, don’t talk stupidly like this girl, don’t look like a mess like that girl, and I’m really fucking sick of it. She was abused by her mother and her father died young but I feel like all of her childhood angst and anger has been carried down to me. Is this a thing? I just need help. I need to know if I’m not alone. I have so much resentment towards her and I want to talk to someone about it.