Hey everyone!

So today is a close friend’s birthday and she is having her birthday dinner at a really expensive and formal restaurant. Like I’m taking people celebrate their wedding receptions, graduation parties, prom evenings here, and so on. I love and support her, and we even became coworkers recently. So when I heard the event, I was excited to celebrate with her! I even took off from work that evening to make it. However, we and her other guests, are all broke college students (lol) and it’s not the most wallet-friendly place in town. But this is her day and we all want her to be happy.

She also invited me to bring my boyfriend as well.

My boyfriend knows her and has met her on several occasions. When I told him the plans, he agreed to join but he was skeptical of going. Since this was an expensive place and he didn’t know if it was worth it. (We actually wanted to go there for a long time and we had been saving it for a really special occasion in our relationship). I had also bought her some very expensive, but worth it, gifts before I knew about where dinner would be at. So I basically didn’t budget for it. Mostly because she made reservations at the place 3 days before her birthday.

My bf was overall really unsure, since we hadn’t planned to pay for $60 dinners. And he constantly brought it up throughout the days leading up to it (today). Him and I also have an exam early tomorrow morning that we would still need to study for together. And Im super busy during the day, so I would mostly be able to study late tonight. My friend also knows about this and she also planned to go clubbing after. Which I excused myself from because of my exam.

But he told me last night that he wouldn’t be going since my friend was being inconsiderate (some of her guests including me, brought up the issue about it being expensive and she just shrugged), and that I would be doing too much for someone who might not go to the same lengths for me.

Yes I do have to buy a formal dress last minute today, since she disapproved of my current evening dresses. And that would make the night really expensive. But I would do it for her, since she is a good friend.

But last night, with all of these factors, my boyfriend didn’t want to go willingly and we argued about the event the entire night, last night. I finally decided not to go, since it was seriously effecting us. And he was happy to hear and proposed a date night (like usual). This isn’t the first time he’s talked me out of plans, so the both of us can hangout.

Thank you for reading this far, I’m sorry for the unorganization lol. But I really want to know if I’m being crazy, if my boyfriend’s thoughts are invalid/valid, and if my friend is justified to make these choices?

Thank you! And no hate :-) !!