Lowering Lobito

So my boyfriend and I have an issue. Well I have an issue I’m trying to figure out on my own.

He and I got into an argument the other day over me having a toy. He says “why do you need a toy when you have me”. Okay. So I don’t use it and I try to have sex with him more often. He then complains that I want to have sex too much and that I need to cool down. Great. So he doesn’t want me to masturbate but also doesn’t want to do me. So I googled how to lower my Lobito and I’ve been sticking too it. And it’s making me depressed. So not only am I sexually frustrated constantly, I’m depressed. And there’s nothing I can do.