Hes upset because I want to go out alone.? Is he wrong? *UPDATE*

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We had a baby 9 months ago and I have been home this whole time and taking care of everything while he works!
today I told him my stepmom is taking me out around 6 I’ll have dinner prepared just can you watch our daughter for an hour. I won’t be long. She’s teaching me to drive. I just need some alone time. I’m not doing anything bad, I’m not cheating, I’m not going to a bar, I’m going for a drive (I’m learning to get my license) and maybe going for a coffee?  He got upset and said  “what are you doing?” “What are you planning?” “And you’re showering too?” “Ok fine I need alone time too...I’m going to go out with my friends” “you’re obviously planning something..why wouldn’t you want me to bring you instead?” Whenever my mom asks me to go out for a half an hour- an hour in the evening it’s a problem for him. 
He’s asking why he can’t just bring me driving and she watches her. But honestly I just want a break from everything! Idk, does that make me a bad person? I’m home literally 24/7. Especially with me not having my license. 
It’s not fair because I never cheated on him before...in fact, he cheated on ME. So I don’t get it? 
I feel like he just really doesn’t understand. 
Am I wrong? How can I explain this to him without him getting upset or defensive? Or feeling like I’m leaving him or cheating on him?
****UPDATE****
He ended up saying “I’m sorry, I’m just getting mad at you because I’m not doing the things I want to lately...if I want to see my friends it has nothing to do with you and I’m going to go” and hugged me...WHY DO I FEEL LIKE HES MANIPULATING ME??? Please tell me he’s not and I’m crazy!!!!

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I’ll be damned if I ever let a man be so controlling towards me that he would make me feel bad about going to see my own mother.

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There you go I was waiting to read that cuz why else would he act this way? His own guilty conscience makes him think that you will do the same. 
Honestly girl, getting your license will give you freedom. Hes an ass.

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All I could read in this was him trying to control you and guilt trip you about him not getting to do things. You deserve to get out and see your mum and learn to drive and have time to be you away from the baby and he is the father so he can step up and look after the baby for 1 hr. My ex started this way after my son was born and by the time he was 11 months old I was the blame for everything, was never allowed to do anything and my ex started threatening to hit me as I was trying to find ways around him to be myself again.

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Also, good for you for getting your license. You should be able to do things and go places during the day. Especially having a kid it is so important in case there is an emergency.

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Hey your entitled to your life away from  him.and your child to font let him get in your head go and do  your lesson and put him to the back of your mind you need your space to if I didnt have my time away from my son I would go crazy let him learn what you do day in day out and dont feel guilty do  it

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It sounds like he controls every little thing you do. What’s wrong with taking a shower before you go? Glad you’re getting your license so you’ll have more freedom. He needs to stop controlling your life. He’s clearly paranoid about you cheating on him since he did that to you. If my husband did that to me he would be watching the baby, cleaning the house, cook, AND go to work while I do whatever the hell I wanted. You’re getting your drivers license for goodness sake 🙄 his behavior is just 🤯

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You’re not wrong, he seems very controlling. Every mom needs a break from parenting once in awhile. If I were you, I would start scheduling therapy sessions so you can get some help and maybe clarity to either leave or help your relationship. If you continue like this, it’ll get worse. I’m hoping for the best.

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Sounds like he has control issues..? Do you ever leave the house? Or do you live in a city so a drivers license isn’t as much of a necessity. You’re hanging out with your mom for an hour! Like whoa, he needs to back off.

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Yup..Cheaters always think you up to something....Mommies need breaks so don't feel bad.

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He apologized but made it sound like he is the victim? It does sound manipulative. You are not in the wrong at all. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you wanting some time to yourself away from home.

Hes upset because I want to go out alone.? Is he wrong? UPDATE

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