Toxic mom

I love my mom, but sometimes she is too much for me. If she does something wrong, she’ll somehow find a way to blame it on someone instead of taking responsibility herself. Once, she lost her ID at the grocery store and managed to blame it on me even though I wasn’t even there with her. If you upset her, she expects you to beg for her forgiveness even if it wasn’t your fault. She holds big grudges and they’ll last forever until you apologize. Even then, she’ll give you a hard time when apologizing. She always has to be right and I hate it so much. My dad doesn’t like this about her and this is a big reason why they had a fallout in their marriage. My dad also has his flaws, but if I have an argument with my dad, he’ll get over it within an hour. My mom makes me so stressed sometimes. She got mad at me a few days back over something SO small, and she’s still mad at me and won’t talk to me now. I didn’t even do anything wrong. I feel so stressed. I’m so tired of how she acts. I tried to tell her that she can’t keep holding grudges all the time but she just won’t listen to me. I feel like I’m going mad.