Should I tell her?

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So there’s this guy that I met a while ago. We had a thing going on and we’d often mess around and have sex. Okay that’s all well and good until he caught feelings. I didn’t feel the same way and I expressed that to him. Fast forward a couple weeks and I start to feel the same way. He got a girlfriend in the mean time (kms) we go through a whole bunch of bs and somehow maintained our “friendship” But that “friendship” includes exchanging nudes, sexting and occasionally having sex. HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND! I feel terrible but you really can’t help how you feel about someone. I just really want to tell her and get everything off my chest. If you were in this situation what would you do? Please no judgements I hate myself as it is

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You’d only be telling her for you. This is not about her. It’s about trying to make yourself feel better, but you’re choosing to be a part of the pain that she’ll feel once it comes to light. Despicable.

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You can't help how you feel, but you can absolutely help what you do.

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You should tell her. I also wouldn’t trust him. If he’s willing to cheat on one girl, he’ll be willing to cheat on another. 
She deserves to know. It will be hard but it’s the right thing to do.

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So tell her and risk loosing him all because you caught feelings, after he told u he had them but you didn’t at the time? Right? No don’t tell her. It isn’t your place. Your the one messing with her bf. maybe you have.......I want you now because I can’t have u. Idk but I think you would only be telling her to see if he then gets with u. Of course, he may be mad at u and u loose your friend. But hey, That’s on u.

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You only want to tell her to ruin what they have so you can in some shitty way try and get him back 
You’re a bad person for still sleeping with him 
He’s a bad person for continuing to sleep with you 
And this poor girl is innocent 
So if you have ANY amount of class or decency you’ll cut things off with him and leave them be 
Stop being shitty.

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Well you’re a POS so 🤷🏽‍♀️
Just thought you should know how fucked up what you’re CHOOSING to do is.

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I'd take his actions as a red flag.

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I would because I would want to know if that happens in my relationship.

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You need to leave him alone and if you confess to her its just for you to hurt her and make yourself feel better. I'd tell her so she could leave the lying sack of scum. I also never would have continued with the situation once learning he had a girlfriend. That's not right. Smh. Hope you dont have anyone do this to you. Its so not right.

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I say no!! I get why you would feel the urge to tell her because it’s not right. But also consider the fact that you and him have been in this arrangement for a while with no strings attached. And you both agreed to it and continued with it prior to his relationship. Now that he has a gf if it makes you feel uncomfortable being with someone’s man than leave the situation. But in my opinion if you both agreed to have a no strings attached relationship than it also means you have no saying in their personal life! Just my though because I’ve been in the same boat!

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