I told my spouse him telling me he’s gonna leave me and I’m pushing him to the edge of him leaving me hurts me

He said well STOP the arguing I said I can’t even talk to you anymore it’s always full blow on anger and he says He is wrong He is stupid during our arguments

He says well you’ll do this say this etc I say no bam he’s all. OK I’m dumb I’m wrong I’m getting closer to edge of leaving you

So is it justifiable that it is ok for him to say the arguments are worse than him saying I’m gonna leave you????

It hurts my feelings I tried to tell him this he said so now what I say is WRONG