So I’m 19 and my 3 month olds father is 38... (yes I’m aware it’s a very large age difference and my current boyfriend of about a year (since i was 16 weeks pregnant broke up with father before i found out) is 23. So no more old ass men for me lmfao.

Anyhow, her father was a lot of drama and kept trying to control me and tried to not only tell me that i couldn’t be myself around him but also tried to tell me what i needed to name MY daughter. (I say mine cause he hasn’t done SHIT for her)

I blocked him the first trimester of my pregnancy because he wouldn’t stop stressing me out and making me cry and i was so terrified I’d miscarry and i asked him numerous time to stop or I’d have to block him. He did it anyway and then i blocked..

So we talked here and there during the pregnancy and then at the end (around 32 weeks) we talked and he demanded we only talk Through phone calls and not text (cause he could over talk me and be an ass and over text i could say what i wanted to say).

So i didn’t call cause no way someone’s going to treat me like that when I’m carrying their ONLY child.

Fast forward a couple weeks later and he popped up by texting my mother . Trying to do everything through my mother and not me, saying he wanted to be there etc.

i was ssooooo nice and i was excited to be able to co parent have for her to have her dad in her life , but then hed fuck it up. By saying “nevermind” on having mature conversations about our child and co parenting.

This happened 3 times until i gave birth , and right before i gave birth he was like “I’m not speaking to you until you give birth”

And so i was like “okay then you’re basically ruining yourself being at the hospital and you’re also ruining yourself being on her birth certificate “ he still didn’t talk to me or come. So i did just that.

He stalked my pages to find out when she was born and then called my mom (again my MOM not me , the mother ) talking about “i heard the baby was born so I wanna know when i can come see her” blah blah.

So a week after that i texted him and told him he could come see her. NO RESPONSE

week after that i texted asking him if he was going to be involved (NO RESPONSE)

And two more times after that. (NO RESPONSE) by that time a month had went by. So i decided he should go fuck himself and i was over it and never texted again.

Fast forward three months, i had a FEELING, he’d be popping back up. Sure enough he texts my MOM. Again!! Lmao talking about “we shall see the paternity test results say” using that as an excuse as to why he hasn’t been there which is BS . Lmfao

Knowing damn well he was the ONLY guy i slept with and we were on a trip when i got pregnant.

Not only knowing she’s his TWIN , just with light skin.

Moral of the story . I don’t want him involved, i don’t want him to disappoint her. She has no idea who tf he is. She knows my boyfriend.

Am i wrong for not wanting him to be involved after this?? And what can i do to prevent him from it..

I gave him 10 chances!!