I’m at a loss with how to handle relationships regarding my infertility diagnosis. It’s been over a year, and my friends and family know I’m struggling. However, people just do not get it... I mean the other night, we went out to a restaurant with friends, and one of my friends asked if we all noticed that one girl wasn’t drinking. Then they all continued to speculate about her possible pregnancy...even suggesting that it was probably an accident because she just had a baby 7 months ago. “That’s so soon!” They said. One current mom jokes about how she isn’t pregnant obviously because she’s drinking. All of this, in my presence, after they know I just had some painful tests and procedures done. Is this insensitive? It stung. I wasn’t myself afterwards. But i don’t know if I have reason to feel that way or not. My friends are not easy to talk to. A couple of them got pregnant without trying and one of them isn’t even dating. I feel alone and have nobody honestly.

Any advice? If my friend is pregnant with her second unplanned in less than two years, I don’t know how I’ll navigate that relationship either. She’s already the kind of friend who, after I had my HSG done and updated my friends about how it went, she sent several snapchats of her baby later that day. (She rarely sends snapchats...)