Baby shower rant

Ashleigh • FTM to a beautiful baby girl born January 17th
Is anyone else having/wanting their hubby with them for their baby shower. Our families are throwing a joint shower since we are due around the holidays and having multiple showers would have been to much ( I wanted this). However they are making it women only and when I mentioned that I wanted him there at the very least for when I open presents I got weird looks and snide comments about how that was appropriate. I think it is completely okay because it's our baby, together. She didn't get here by just me! I'm so annoyed and don't know if I want to push the issue.... Huh. Thanks for listening