Sex after EP

I had an EP removal surgery back in May. I’m not ready to start having sex again. The fear of getting pregnant again and going through the same thing is absolutely terrifying. My boyfriend keeps trying to make moves on me. And when I say no we fight. He says I should be more understanding of his feelings because he feels like since we’re not physically intimate we’re losing our emotional connection. How do I get him to see that I’m still healing from trauma and I need to heal more before I feel good about it?