Hello,

I was hoping to get some input about my miscarriage, mainly because I don’t really want to talk to my family about it. I know a lot of people like support from their loved ones, but I just can’t stand the thought of every time I see them, being asked, ‘how are you?’, ‘are you ok?’. I know that’s general kindness on their end, but it’s just not something I feel like being hounded about every time I see them.

I had a healthy pregnancy two years ago, with zero complications. We got pregnant with her the first month of trying. My daughter is now 21 months old. I recently miscarried on 6/24/19 - my first miscarriage. I was 7 weeks along. I passed everything within the first 24 hours of it starting. I’m definitely working through some anger right now; this pregnancy was unplanned, and I was pretty angry to find out I was pregnant. I was just warming up to the idea of being pregnant again, when I miscarried, so now I carry a lot of guilt, for feeling like the baby was never loved or wanted. I know with time I will forgive myself.

My first question is, how long did you bleed for? I feel like the bleeding is light, and then heavy the next day. So it’s hard to tell how long it will last. It kind of just feels like a period right now.

I’m also nervous now that I will not have heathy pregnancies from here on out. I was just curious to hear some positive stories about having a healthy uncomplicated first pregnancy, followed by a miscarriage, then another healthy pregnancy.

My last question is how long you waited to conceive again. I was so angry to find out I was pregnant sooner than I wanted to be, but now I’m worried ill have fertility issues from here on out (I recently turned 30 and wonder if my age will play a factor). My husband and I may try to conceive again soon, but I’m seeing conflicting opinions on how long you should wait. My doctor said I didn’t need to, but I’ve seen so many women say their doctors said to wait at least 3 months.

Any way sorry this is so long. Just looking for advice.