Product of a toxic family

I was raised in a toxic household my family is full of judgemental folks who'd rather talk shit while your down than help you up so I struggled growing up. I was always eager to please my family but it was never enough. When I was consistently shot down for my efforts my self esteem got low and I entered a rebellious phase in my teen years which I now regret I missed out on the best years of my life but at 16 I met my now husband. We were pregnant at 18, married at 22 and now we're both 27 with 5 going on 6 children. My husband is of a different race than me he was also raised in a big family but unlike my own his family always supports him. They come to his aid whenever he needs them, they're quick to lend a helping hand and they don't complain not one bit. I have literally dreaded telling my family about each and every pregnancy. They always say negative things like you have too many kids, tell your husband to stay off of you, tie your tubes, yadda yadda. Thats how they insult me or make jokes about me now and it's corny to me like that's all you got. You can't keep up with me when it comes to keeping a healthy marriage, maintaining employment and an 7 person household so you go after my kids? On the other hand my in-laws were excited and encouraging for every pregnancy. My husband doesn't even like to be around my family he's witnessed first hand their toxicity and how unnecessary it is. My family drove me away from them two years ago I live close to my in laws now it's much more peaceful and if I need help I get it right away. I'm 8 months pregnant with baby #6 and I told my family a week ago. My grandma smacked her lips and said in a disappointing way you're pregnant again. My mom laughed. My sister called for the Lord. My dad and brother were the most positive responses my brother's a teenager he doesnt care my dad doesnt see his grandkids anyway but he was content with the news my issues mostly lie with my mom and grandma because ever since I told them I have been judged at every turn. They're always taking jabs at me and recently my grandma said something very harsh and I refuse to take her calls now. She's so toxic she doesn't even know when she's hurt someone. I've been getting calls from relatives telling me that she's upset because I won't answer her calls to the point she's crying and genuinely doesn't know what she said to upset me. I've gone through this ever since I was a child now my mom comes along and says we love you but we're going to tell you how we feel. I corrected her I said no you're going to bully me despite the fact that I am married with a job that I've kept for 5 years. I'm always judged for the amount of kids I have not how I treat them. Nobody ever complains about them not being fed, not going to school, etc. My children consistently have good grades, the two oldest are in sports they never miss practice, we have family outings very often, family movies, activities. My oldest knows how to fry chicken at 8 years old and helps me in the kitchen on a regular basis who do they think taught him that. My second eldest is exceptionally bright always reading and expanding her vocabulary. My husband and I are the best parents our kids tell us that often but my family brings me down because of how many I have. I just learned that my pregnancy is high risk and I have to make some changes to my diet. I already fear the unknown with this diagnosis but of course my family brushed it off then made it about themselves so I decided to cut them off to not only focus on my household but also my mental and physical health but I keep getting calls telling me I'm wrong when all I did was get pregnant. Make this make sense for me because I know in my heart I'm not wrong.

PS my mom wants me to name my unborn daughter after her. My husband laughed and said hell no I couldn't agree more.

Also with my in-laws I truly feel like family they help me alot and I also return the favor sometimes without them asking. I couldn't be more proud of the family I chose to marry into because this is how it's supposed to be. Full of love, laughs, good times and support.